The Growing Need to Over Analyze What We Say

It’s a struggle to convey honest thoughts sans offensiveness

Pamela Hazelton


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I have a plethora of stories in the queue. Most relate to marketing, life lessons, and self-care. I’ve worked hard on them. Yet, it’s not enough. Not for today’s climate.

I require myself to write based on facts, knowledge, and my truth. Part of that is with the understanding that people may perceive things differently than intended. So, it forces me to leave edited copy alone for a spell — sometimes weeks — so I can revisit it with fresh eyes and mindfulness. Because the last thing I want to do is misrepresent any facts or opinions.

One of my latest articles was about how some women participate in the torrid act of shaming fellow ladies and then turn a blind eye to their own actions. It took days to write, and I revisited it several times over six weeks before finally clicking the publish button. It never faced any rejection. I opted to self-publish right out of the gate, primarily because most of the publications to which it belongs were more than likely to reject it — publisher politics and all. Many outlets claiming to want to hear authentic voices are really looking for voices that align with the publishers or frequently spotlighted authors.

I’m a woman. I’m consistently told that I should be unapologetically me — that I should use my voice to support causes and for the greater good. I’m encouraged to speak up about abuse, judgment, and bias. I’m encouraged to help lift others’ voices so that the world can hear them.

But the question remains: who sincerely cares?

I’m not afraid of rejection. Not even when it comes to business or droves of comments on social media networks. Still, I want to ensure I’m speaking clearly, so the backlash isn’t based on a lack of consideration for people’s varying takes on content.

Much of today’s dialogue saddens me. Speaking a common language is no longer sufficient to hold meaningful conversations.

I was recently accused of being transphobic because I didn’t think it was wrong for a business to require employees use only their names in email signatures — that surnames, pronouns and other identifying data not be included. No listening to…



Pamela Hazelton

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