There’s something unique about you.

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Finding out who you are — what you’re good at, what you stand for, and what inspires you to travel down certain paths — is an amazing adventure. If you asked me five years ago who I was, my answer would be quite different from today. I’ve spent quite a bit of time discovering not only what I can do but also what makes me tick.

Self-discovery is both a scary and exciting process. The more we learn about ourselves, the more apt we are to not lend so much weight to what others think. …

Creators, course leaders, and entrepreneurs will often need to communicate complex ideas to those with differing levels of knowledge. Here’s a technique that will help.

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It took me ten years to gain interest in Sudoku. I never understood how this puzzle works, so my response was always, “yeah, I’m not interested.” To challenge my brain, I sought out more explanations. Now I’m hooked and solve a puzzle daily.

Avid Sudoku solvers might wonder what the issue was — why was it such a difficult concept for me to grasp? Fact is, we all approach and process information differently. How we do so is based on our cognitive ability and goals.

Until recently, no one simplified the rules for me using layperson’s terms. I see numbers…

And how to tell if you fit the mold

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There will always be people who think they are the writer. Better than Gaiman. Better than King. The one every publisher should bank on. Their work requires little to no editing. They’re an authority on all the topics they write about, so there’s no need for citing any sources. It’s okay if they present their opinions as facts because — hey — there’s no real need to back up lofty statements.

Wrong. Dead wrong. And thousands of editors since the beginning of time have the rejection slips to prove it.

Cockiness has no place in the writer-editor relationship. Such antics…

Lack of jurisdiction breeds our inability to see the big picture

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As I look around the house, I’m in awe of the volume of things I don’t appreciate. During the pandemic onset in early 2020, I assured myself I would re-organize and get rid of all the things to which I don’t pay much mind. That didn’t happen.

Here I am, nearly a year later, in the same predicament. Trinkets are sitting on shelves, collecting dust. There are books I know I will never read again. The dog’s toys have taken over the couch. Many require stitching, but, alas, procrastination.

I can’t even remember the last time I sat in the…

From saying no to wearing life’s seat belts

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When I attended high school in the mid-’80s, we learned as much about self-sufficiency as we did about history, mathematics, and science. It was enough to get by while still living with my parents.

Taking Home Economics was more about getting an easy A. Expectations were not high — we were teenagers.

In Home Ec, we learned the basics of cooking, balancing a checkbook, and creating a budget — things many schools in the US no longer teach. No, I never had to carry an egg around for days to learn the fragility of a baby. …

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Write, I Must roundup

We’re six months in, and boy has it been eye-opening. Write, I Must is still a reasonably small, new publication. But you know what they say about audiences — dedicated ones are worth their weight in gold.

Whether you’ve been here since the start, or are just joining us, thank you for being a part of this publication’s launch.

Here’s the latest…

New: r/WriteIMust

That’s right. There is now a Write, I Must subreddit. Right now, anyone can join. As the community grows, we’ll determine if privatizing it makes sense.

Join r/WriteIMust, and be sure to introduce yourself there.

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Can we count on you to help save it?

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Did someone change the definition of literally without us noticing? Meriam-Webster sure didn’t. Yet, here we are, using it to describe most everything, thinking its emphatic intent is warranted on the daily.

Truth be told, the use of the word literally in the figurative sense dates back to the 1760s. It’s been applied in hyperbolic and metaphoric fashion ever since, including by the likes of Dickens, Bronte, Joyce and Fitzgerald.

In 1909, Meriam-Webster’s unabridge dictionary stated the word literally is “often used hyperbolically; as, he literally flew.” Hence, modern dictionaries list two definitions for the word:


Use them to protect yourself and minimize rejections

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One of the glaring differences between new and seasoned writers is the act of sourcing information. Relying on people with more knowledge than us is essential to building trust. And what kind of writer do you want to be if not a trustworthy one?

I’ve written plenty about why so many submissions are rejected, and the lack of citing sources is one of them. Many writers overlook the need to back up their statements with sound data and evidence-based concepts.

This causes a few problems:

  • The reader may take what you say at face value, even if it’s not correct…

Armed with an arsenal of psychological tools, Facebook makes users think that not pulling out their wallets equates to zero cost.

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Nothing is free. Not even social media. No matter your platform of choice, social media networks cannot survive without a userbase. Some make great efforts to be transparent and build slowly as they stay true to ethical policies. Others amass a stellar financial portfolio on the backs of people like you and me. And they’re so good at it, we have to remind ourselves that we’re paying for these services using a different form of currency: everything about us.

No one monetizes users better than Facebook. Not Snapchat. Not Twitter. Facebook could lose a third of its users tomorrow, and…

And why it’s an essential step to legit happiness

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During the pre-flight safety speech, the flight attendants instruct passengers that should the oxygen masks drop from above, to put their own masks on before helping others. The reason is simple: if you run out of oxygen, you can’t help anyone else.

While not the best metaphor for taking care of yourself — it’s an immediate response to an urgent situation — putting your own mask on first serves as a crucial reminder. We must take care of ourselves before we can adequately care for others.

If you want to realize success, including lifelong happiness, you must make yourself a…

Pamela Hazelton

Avid writer, marketer & business consultant. // Reward yourself a little every day. 🆆🅾🆁🅺 + 🅻🅸🅵🅴 🅱🅰🅻🅰🅽🅲🅴

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